when was the last time someone judged you?
And being judged is one thing, but when someone feels the need to share their ill-conceived opinion of you, how do you react?
Recently, I met an acquaintance through a friend here in Berlin, and we discovered we were both from Canada. As we got to talking about our lives and how we ended up in Germany, I realized that I was being plainly judged. Comments like "how could you even afford that?" and "wow we clearly have different standards" were thrown at me like confetti. I was of course very uncomfortable with the way this conversation was going, but being an extremely non-confrontational Aries, I politely continued the conversation and then excused myself.
Thinking about it later, I realized how upsetting this whole situation was. I remember when I first immigrated to Canada - shopping for clothes at Value Village and not being able to afford a full meal at McDonald's - I was often so embarrassed about my finances and my supposed standard of life. And of course, people always made a point about commenting on those things. And now, fast forward almost twenty years, and I have to hear comments about the apparent opulence of my life. When do we ever come to a point in life where we have it right? Where we don't have too little, and where we don't spend too much?
we will never meet people's expectations of us.
SHOP THE LOOK
And that is a beautiful thing. I didn't need the acceptance of those who tore me down when I was a struggling immigrant, and I sure as hell do not need the approval of those who take issue with the experiences and things that I now have, which I have worked very hard for. No one knows me like I do, and I had to remind myself to not give that type of power to anyone. Own your reality, and make no apologies for the person you are, and who you are becoming.