For starters, I have to confess that I am no expert in relationship advice, and I am constantly soaking up what others around me have to say in order to maintain and grow a healthy marriage. My wife and I have been dating for a little over six years now, but officially we got married last October, exactly seven months from today. For more details about our wedding, click here! As each day goes by, I appreciate more and more the joys of being married, but also work through the challenges that everyone faces. So today, to commemorate seven months of being married, I am sharing with you the seven things that Monika and I have learned (and implemented) in our married life thus far, and what we would advise you to try in your relationship to continue to enjoy your significant other and the life you have together.
ONE / still go on brunch dates
When we were dating, we became known for our weekend brunch sessions. Slowly over the years, we have tried literally every single new and old brunch spot in Calgary. After tying the knot, we decided that this fun little Saturday and Sunday tradition was still important for us and it allows us time to stop and do nothing but eat and chat. Both of which we love.
TWO / honour some quiet time, together
So most of you know that I can talk non-stop for hours at a time, and (as per my wedding vows), I am blessed to have found someone who both listens to me for those hours at a time, but also converses with me the entire time, too. But we have recently discovered the importance of just hanging out in silence, in each others’ company while doing completely unconnected tasks. The beauty of being together and the solidarity of silence is very cool.
THREE / celebrate the small stuff
Although we are on a strict “no gifts/no greeting cards” policy this year (more on that later!), both of us definitely ensure that we take a minute (or even a second) to commemorate the small victories in life. Example, the last day of my regular day job before we launched the #KCCreativeProject, Monika tucked a cute (hand made!) card into my day-planner to simply celebrate and be excited for this next chapter in our lives. Those are the things that make all the difference and that you remember for a long time after.
FOUR / cherish your wedding day(s)
This might seem like a no-brainer, but I think it is important enough to mention here. Don’t be the stereotypical ‘man’ who forgets his wedding anniversary. Remind yourself and each other about the happy and fun moments you shared together that day so that the memory of your wedding day always remains constant, clear and awesome.
FIVE / encourage each other
In big things and small, don’t ever forget the power of a few simple words of encouragement or advice that you can freely lend to your partner. In times of need or emotional despair, you have no idea how relevant or helpful those simple sentiments you shared can be.
SIX / swap household duties
I will be the first one to say that I definitely do not do enough of the cleaning or chores in the house, and so I always really try (I swear!) to perform the activities my wife normally does, like cleaning the floors. Although I don’t really measure up to her high standards of shine, the effort I put in makes up for it. I hope.
SEVEN / don’t forget to have fun
Guys! Don’t believe the non-hype! Being married isn’t boring and mundane – if you find the right partner, its the most fun you will have in your life, but that fun doesn’t come automatically. It is a result of being lighthearted, of being optimistic, of being enthusiastic, and also to occasionally be just a little stupid. Laugh at yourself. I know Monika has no hesitation laughing at me, and I love it. It keeps us grounded and it keeps us happy.
